You Are Somebody!

by Martha on January 31, 2011

I was reading a blog post recently and the person relayed that they had been told by a family member, when they were quite young, that they were an “accident.”

How sad.  Nobody is an accident.  Yes, there are certainly babies that are complete surprises and some that come into the world under the worst of circumstances, but there are no accidents.

However, this post is not directed to the people who say harsh things to others, who fling out a retort that burns, or who make careless remarks.

Who then??

It’s directed to the people who receive them.  And dwell on them.  And remember them over and over and over for years! Needless to say, that’s very unhealthy.  Plus, it keeps you in the moment of the unkind word.  It keeps reminding you that someone was cruel to you.  Why do you want to keep doing that?

I can’t help it!

Well, I’m here to tell you that you can!  No, it’s not easy and it won’t be overnight, especially if you’ve been harboring ill-will about the remark for years on end.  Maybe even decades!  But, I am telling you, you can exchange that thought, when it comes, into a positive, uplifting affirmation for yourself that will feed your very soul.

Repetition works!

I know. Many people think affirmations are nothing more than repeating the same sentence over and over.  It is that, but it has another purpose.  To replace the negative remarks that are playing in your head anyway.  Over and Over.  You know, our mind is an interesting thing.  It focuses on what we feed it.  And, if we choose to feed it a negative remark that was made to us years ago and continue to say it to ourselves every day, guess what?  That becomes what we actually believe.

Our self-talk is the most important speech we hear.  And, the speech we pay attention to.

Why not make a change?

Unless you just enjoy harboring old resentments that make you feel lousy and can also affect your health, why not try some new self-talk?  How about turning that “you were an accident” or whatever your negative statement is into something positive.  How about this:  “I am here for a reason and the reason is all good.”  Doesn’t that have a better ring to it?

There will always be off-remarks that come your way that make no sense or bring you sorrow.  It’s OK.  It doesn’t have to be the message you send to yourself. When you hear the negative words playing back, change them immediately into powerful, positive words about yourself.  Therein, you will find happiness.

Peace,

-Martha

p.s.  Need some help changing that self-talk?  You might want to check out my audio, Rewired!

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Melanie Kissell @SoloMompreneur February 23, 2011 at 6:11 am

Your email about “Raising the bar” just landed in my inbox moments ago. Thanks for the nudge!

And this post ties right into that message. If you want to raise the bar on your emotional well being and your self-worth, make sure you’re singin’ a happy tune! 🙂

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