I love words!
They can change moods, create friendships, explain problems, soothe pain , cause happiness and create joy.
They can also just as easily cause turmoil, strife, and create suffering. Usually needlessly.
It’s happened to all of us.
The harsh word, the cutting word, the just plain wrong word.
Words can never be “taken back.” What a shame because it seems like the ones that should be “taken back” are the very ones that are remembered. And dwelled on.
You know the one. The mean or haughty remark made to us. The one we replay over and over. And for some, this replaying has been going on for years!
If that describes you, stop it now! Don’t participate any more. Those words are history!
What I do want you to think about are your own words. You are creating your life through words. What you say projects into the future and actually determines your future!
Have you ever heard someone say something like (in my case), “I’m just not good at math?” Well, that statement made over the course of your life, will eventually become your truth. Maybe you aren’t the next CPA, but you could get someone to help you, practice, and eventually become “good enough.”
I want you to take a look at the word “just.” That word in itself is mighty powerful. It’s really a put-down of sorts.
For example, I spent alot of years saying, “I’m just a housewife.” Also, “I’m just a stay-at-home Mom.” Every time I put the word “just” in front of my description of myself, I was discounting myself. Pretty much saying that what I did was somehow inadequate or insignificant.
Think about this. How many times have you said, “It’s just a penny.” Or this one. “It’s just a minute.” Or my favorite. “It’s just a job.”
With that one word, “just,” you have minimized whatever it is you are talking about. And we do it all day long. Sometimes in reference to ourselves. If you are referring to yourself as “just a writer, a salesperson, a parent, or just a (you fill-in-the-blank), then you need to rethink what you are saying. You have suddenly made yourself small, unimportant and even expendable.
From the use of one word.
Put your words into your future. No more references to “just.” No more diminishing who you are!
As my Daddy used to say, “Watch what you say.” Describe yourself in big words. Wonderful words that show that you make a difference in this world! You will be creating a much better future for yourself.
It works!
How do I know? Because, I’m not “just another blogger.” I’m a motivator extraordinaire!
Peace,
-Martha
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“Just” has a similar effect in advice. Whenever I hear someone say, “Just do it this way,” I automatically go “uh-oh.” People rarely lead off their advice with “just” unless they’re asking you to do something that doesn’t quite make sense.
Martha – how true! Words are tangible and just as powerful as any thought or emotion that we have. And just like our thoughts and emotions, they can be used to shape our own destiny, and have an effect on others around us.
I agree also that self-talk is one of the most crucial areas to make improvements if one wants to be truly successful.
Thanks for posting
MS