Just Words

by Martha on February 1, 2010

I love words!

They can change moods, create friendships, explain problems, soothe pain , cause happiness and create joy.

They can also just as easily cause turmoil, strife, and create suffering.  Usually needlessly.

It’s happened to all of us.

The harsh word, the cutting word, the just plain wrong word.

Words can never be “taken back.”  What a shame because it seems like the ones that should be “taken back” are the very ones that are remembered.  And dwelled on.

You know the one.  The mean or haughty remark made to us.  The one we replay over and over.  And for some, this replaying has been going on for years!

If that describes you, stop it now! Don’t participate any more.  Those words are history!

What I do want you to think about are your own words.  You are creating your life through words.  What you say projects into the future and actually determines your future!

Have you ever heard someone say something like (in my case), “I’m just not good at math?”  Well, that statement made over the course of your life, will eventually become your truth.  Maybe you aren’t the next CPA, but you could get someone to help you, practice, and eventually become “good enough.”

I want you to take a look at the word “just.”  That word in itself is mighty powerful.  It’s really a put-down of sorts.

For example, I spent alot of years saying, “I’m just a housewife.” Also, “I’m just a stay-at-home Mom.”  Every time I put the word “just” in front of my description of myself, I was discounting myself.  Pretty much saying that what I did was somehow inadequate or insignificant.

Think about this.  How many times have you said, “It’s just a penny.” Or this one.  “It’s just a minute.”  Or my favorite.  “It’s just a job.”

With that one word, “just,” you have minimized whatever it is you are talking about.  And we do it all day long.  Sometimes in reference to ourselves.  If you are referring to yourself as “just a writer, a salesperson, a parent, or just a (you fill-in-the-blank), then you need to rethink what you are saying.  You have suddenly made yourself small, unimportant and even expendable.

From the use of one word.

Put your words into your future. No more references to “just.”  No more diminishing who you are!

As my Daddy used to say, “Watch what you say.”   Describe yourself in big words.  Wonderful words that show that you make a difference in this world!   You will be creating a much better future for yourself.

It works!

How do I know?  Because, I’m not “just another blogger.”  I’m a motivator extraordinaire!

Peace,

-Martha

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Patience, Patience, Patience

by Martha on January 18, 2010

We all want it.

We all like it when we see it.

Patience.

It’s a great character trait to develop.  Takes time and energy but the rewards are great.

We’ve all seen the flip side.  You know, the driver who is in a hurry and is going crazy on your back fender?  Or the person waiting in line who is showing her agitation to everyone around?  I think we would all agree that this behavior usually just makes a situation worse.

What is impatience, really?  Frustration.  Anger.  Self-indulgence.  Not exactly words you want describing yourself!

Patience, on the other hand, shows tolerance, emotional control and real wisdom.   A better description of how we want to be seen, don’t you think?

Sometimes it may seem as if the patient person just has an innate calmness.  Maybe something they were just born with.  Maybe a few folks are like that but I think patience is cultivated.  Practice makes perfect.

“Patience is also a form of action.” – Auguste Rodin

Is that statement surprising?  Patience is action?  It really is.  The patient person is waiting, watching, and noticing.  Refusing to give in to combative emotions.  Now that takes time to develop.  And time well spent.

The fact is, we are never really in control of situations anyway.  That’s the job of the universe.  Whether we like it or not.  So being impatient isn’t going to bring back control, because we never had it in the first place!

Enjoy your life.  And practice patience.  It really is a virtue!

Peace,

-Martha

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Hug Train USA

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Make New Friends (At Assisted Living?)

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I have the most unusual experiences!
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Inspiration at the Class Reunion

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Anybody go to a class reunion this year?
After I got over the fact that I wasn’t in the wrong room, that these people actually graduated with me, and that I was the only one who had not aged, I had a great time! It was my (ouch) 35th high school reunion and I had not been [...]

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Good Energy Day 9/9/09

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There’s no way I could let this day pass without a special blog post!
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